This was now starting to cause friction between Jennifer and myself. Jennifer said that if Sister Clare was telling lies, she would never admit it – and that it would be impossible to get her to admit it.
She told me to drop it, and get on with my life.
I took the position that it was important to determine the truth. That I had placed a lot of trust in Sister Clare, and others on the blog had too, in large part because they trusted me, and I had given Sister Clare a certain status on the blog, and the forum.
I wanted to bring this to a head. So I sent her this email:
Two days ago you told me that you were robbed at gunpoint, and that you had $700 taken – money for your rent and your heating.
I was shocked at hearing this, and immediately wanted to help you by getting a journalist onto the story, and then coordinating an online fund raising campaign. But I told you that the journo would need a police report for verification.
You first said that you couldn’t do this, because it would constitute an “obstruction of justice.” That the police would not want you to “forewarn” the criminal.
I have a very dear friend in Montreal who is a tv journalist and documentary maker. She’s been in the business a long time, and knows her Canadian law backwards. I told her your story, and asked her if it would constitute an “obstruction of justice.” She said no, it wouldn’t.
I then pressed further on the police report – you said you didn’t have it, you forgot to pick it up.
I suggested that you either go back to the police station and pick up a copy, which is your legal entitlement, or that you get your “lawyer” – the person you claim gave you the legal opinion on the “obstruction of justice” – to do so on your behalf.
Meanwhile you kept telling me about your dire financial circumstances – that certain payments on auto withdrawal were bouncing, and you were getting threatening letters, and that you now couldn’t pay for certain inexpensive eBay items which you’d “bid” for, and that it would impact negatively on your credit rating.
You also said that it was raining heavily and so there were no witnesses to this robbery.
Some things started to not add up for me.
Why would you park so far from the bank “to get in some walking practice” as you claimed, when it’s raining? And after you’ve been robbed at gunpoint, why didn’t you go straight to the police? Why go back to the bank? And why confront the bank manager, as you claimed? It’s not his fault you were robbed some distance from his premises.
Also, if you have certain auto withdrawal payments in place, why not for your rent, which as you say you’ve been paying for 15 years? And how does getting robbed affect your auto withdrawal payments?
Presumably when you withdrew that $700, you still had funds in your account. I couldn’t understand how getting robbed had anything to do with not being able to pay for inexpensive eBay Christmas gifts.
Now, there might have been very logical reasons for all this, but I started to get suspicious as to the veracity of your story.
So I pressed further on the police report. But the more I pressed you to sight the report, even telling you that Jennifer and I would send you the $700 immediately on sighting the report, still you refused.
You then told me that there was “a third party” involved, and that showing the report to someone else would “compromise my vows as a nun.” You also mentioned that you had decided not to prosecute the perpetrator of the crime.
This to me was getting more suspicious. You were refusing every attempt I made to sight the report. I began to wonder if the report even existed, or if the crime actually happened.
It became apparent to me that what was at issue here Sister was your honesty.
You told me a harrowing story. Robbed at gunpoint of money required for your rent and heating. I then tried to help you – but first I wanted independent verification that your story was true. Every attempt I made with you was thwarted.
The more you tried to duck and weave, and the more inconsistencies appeared in your stories, the more suspicious I became.
So finally I asked simply for the name of the bank outside of which this alleged armed robbery occurred. You wouldn’t even tell me that. You first said “my bank,” when I asked you, and then on asking again you said that you wouldn’t tell me in case I put money into your account.
How can I put money I to your account when I don’t even know your account number?
So if you wouldn’t give me any means by which I could verify your story, I then decided to look elsewhere. Remember Sister I am a journalist by training. I know how to get information, and I know how to determine the veracity of that information.
So I contacted my friend again in Montreal – the experienced tv journalist – and I ran through the story with her. She said I had every right to be suspicious. She offered to get a very good contact in the Canadian Mounted Police to check if a police report was filed in the last few days by a Sister Simon Clare, or an Alison Ferrier.
(Strange that your email name changed – I am also waiting on a response back from Yahoo Tech Support to determine whether they did an update on their mail server which would have prompted a name change, as you claimed.)
Separate to that I am due to speak to Howie Crichton, the editor of the Westport Review Mirror. If any armed robbery occurred in the district, Howie will know. As well, I have contacted the OPP – Ontario Provincial Police – that oversee the Westport district, again to see if there was an armed robbery in the area.
And I am waiting to hear back from my Montreal friend on the result of the enquiries by her contact in the Royal Canadian Mounted Police.
As well, I have already spoken to a few locals in the area – I won’t tell you who, but it’s easy for me to find these people – and none of them have heard of an armed robbery happening in the area. As one of them said, this is a small community, and if something like that happened around here, the news would spread like wildfire.
So we come back to the issue of your personal honesty Sister.
You asked to go onto my blog and tell your story, to garner “support.” What does “support” constitute – donations? I have told you in no uncertain terms that I will help you get your money back – I even offered to pay you the $700 myself – but first I needed to sight the police report, to determine that what you told me was the truth.
But at every turn you have refused to offer any substantiation.
As you know I helped coordinate a campaign to provide you with gear, equipment, and in some cases direct cash payments, to help you on the tour next year. On my reckoning, goods already donated to you represent several thousand dollars. People from the blog rallied a round you because they trust me. I take that trust seriously. And that’s why I am compelled to determine whether you’re telling me the truth or not.
I have asked Susan, who as you know is organising shipments, to hold off sending you anything more until this is resolved.
Here’s what you can do – you can send me the police report, with all the references to the “third party” redacted, blacked out, so that there’s absolutely no issue with you compromising your vows as a nun.
All I need to see is that a report was filed under your name a couple of days ago, that $700 was stolen, and that a gun was produced. That’s all I need to see. I would not in any way want you to violate some other person’s rights or confidentiality. So having those sections blacked out is not a problem for me. Just the report, with those basic facts. And remember, this is what you told me. All I’m doing is trying to check that what you told me is true.
If you refuse to do this, then I will assume that you have lied to me. If you have lied to me, then I will regard that as a fundamental breach of trust between us – notwithstanding a beach of your vows as a nun.
Should you refuse to provide me with a blacked out version of your police report, I will continue to separately check the veracity of your story from independent sources.
(Now that you’ve finally provided me with the name of the bank, I will phone the bank manager and ask him if you informed him of the robbery.)
If all of this happened as you as you’ve claimed, then I will apologise for having doubted you. I sincerely hope I have to make that apology. But if you have lied to me, then I wish to have no further communication with you, and I will ban you from the blog. Not only that, but I will withdraw my offer for you to go on the tour.
So from your point of view, there’s a lot at stake here.
I would ask that you make this really simple and provide me with a blacked out version of the police report. This will be for my eyes only. If I don’t get that report from you, and if my other independent sources can’t back up your story, then I can only conclude that you’ve lied to me.
If you’ve lied to me Sister, then I will have nothing further to do with you.
The ball is now in your court.
Bill
It took a little while, but this is what Sister Clare came back with –
(i am keeping all her formatting, and lack of personal greeting or sign-off. The email came in as Alison Ferrier <srsimonosa@yahoo.ca>
Why would I do all this ? I’ve already refused your money. I didn’t speak to the manager, though-he was on the phone.He’ll remember me asking about another matter thoughI like to walk in the rain-I have a super anorak-would you like a photo?
I didn’t want to garner support on the blog, Bill.I wanted to know if people thought this kind of thing would happen on Camino-and why the better part of people shows up there, but not so much here.
To clear up the third party issue, the man who robbed me was someone I worked with in the past who has had a really hard year.
There was a robbery. I don’t want to be compensated-try to understand that. It appealed to me at first and I realised I was being selfish and I don’t like that about myself.
There is no police report. I know I should have gone to them-and I told you I had because in my vanity I didn’t want you to think I was as stupid as I had been. What I am guilty of is trying to cover up how often I do stupid things like that because your opinion of me is important. That is the God’s truth and I apologise. You can of course talk to anyone here-you will like Westport people, I think. You can also tell anyone about the vain nun who lost her rent and heat money to a desperate guy,needed to tell someone about it because she was scared and dressed up the story with a lie because she didn’t go to the police as she should have and knew that was dumb. I just hoped you would say something that would make me feel better, like you put things in perspective for me often on your blog. I dramatised it so you would think it important enough to listen to how I felt, that’s all. It was wrong and stupid and I’m sorry.
I can forward you any email about people wanting money, if you really want to see them. Years ago, after my husband left I had creditors chasing me for money he owed-they really scared me. I still break out in a sweat when I get a letter pressing for money I don’t have. So, I can provide you with proof of anything except the police report because I lied about that, and I’m sorry. I just wanted your attention because I am so lonely. I’m sorry. Very poor judgement, and immature, vain behaviour-but not a lie , not that I was robbed, at least. I am guilty of that.Very guilty of being a stupid little fool to someone who has been nothing but kind to me. Some nun, eh?I have also lied to some of the people from ebay about when I can pay them. Maybe you remember the guy who owes me $500-I’m trying to chase him down so I can make good on those payments
If you want, to show you how sorryand ashamed I am, I will tell anyone and everyone on the blog, if you want, exactly what I have done. The whole truth, as I should have done with you. But please believe there was no other motive than wanting your sympathy and attention.I was very stupid and have made an awful mistake.
So, there was no police report.
Sister Clare continued to maintain she was robbed, but as she said there were no witnesses. It was just her word that it happened – and as I’d revealed, her word was not to be trusted.
I was hurt, angry, disappointed.
I’d done everything I possibly could to help Sister Clare – including offering to pay her costs so that she could come on the tour, and realise her dream – to walk the Camino.
And now I discover that she’d lied to me. So I began to wonder, what other lies has she told. And who is Sister Clare?
More in Part 4…
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