Fear of success

I haven’t posted in a while and for that I apologise – but as some of you might know, I’m currently touring America with my film, PGS – Intuition is your Personal Guidance System.

From the moment we launched in San Rafael, north of San Francisco, on January 10th, the response has been phenomenal.

That premiere screening sold out. A second “overflow” screening sold out, and the cinema has since been showing the film daily, three sessions a day. It’s now into its fourth week.

To have daily screenings of a “pop up” Theatrical on Demand release is unheard of.

Since launching, we’ve had sell-out screenings across the country. What’s consistently happening is that we’ll sell out a smaller cinema in a multiplex, sometimes a week or ten days ahead of the screening, then we get bumped up to a bigger screen and that sells out, and often if available we’ll again bump to an even larger cinema, and that sells out.

For those of us involved in the production of the film, it’s surprising, gratifying, and humbling.

Surprising in that we didn’t realise what a need there is out there for a film which discusses  intuition not from the perspective of does it exist – my film states right up front that it exists because it saved my life – but that it is a legitimate system that we can tap into to make better choices in life.

And that mystical guidance is real, and it works.

For Jennifer and myself, these past several weeks have been a whirlwind of screenings, traveling, and meeting extraordinary people who have enriched us in so many ways, and work. Attending to emails, social media in all its various forms, and coordinating the rollout of the film, not only across the US, but across the world.

In amongst it all I have been writing the book of the film. My workload is such that I haven’t been able to give it the attention that I’ve needed to, but I’m now on track to finish the first draft by the end of this month – hopefully!

I thought I would include in this post another extract.

The film, and the book, looks at how fear inhibits intuition. It looks at four types of fear – and there are many more types of fear, but I’ve honed it down in this book to these types:

Fear of loss
Feat of ridicule or rejection – aka Fear of not being loved
Fear of failure
Fear of letting go – aka Fear of losing control
Fear of success

Here is an excerpt from the section that deals with Fear of Success –

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FEAR OF SUCCESS

Could it be that what’s holding you back from following an intuitive way of life is that it might just actually work? That you might end up feeling good about yourself, and the rest of the world? That you might end up becoming more successful in life than you ever thought possible?

Becoming successful need not mean making millions of dollars, or being the best at what you do, or becoming famous and having your own reality tv show – it could mean simply being a terrific parent or partner, or living each day with a sense of calm and compassion for others, or simply finding inner peace.

But for that to happen, you’ll have to change, and most people are terrified of change. They might want to change, to become successful and find contentment, but they want change on their terms.

Many people want change only if it means they don’t have to change. Change terrifies them. It means pulling themselves out of a state of known, and stepping into the unknown, which is so daunting they would prefer to stay where they are – unhappy, unfulfilled, angry at their lot in life.

 Change requires an element of risk, to step into the unknown. It requires trust. Trust in the forces that will guide you, but also trust in yourself. And most people don’t trust themselves. They lack self-esteem. Deep down, at their core, they don’t believe they deserve success. Most people reject the prospect of leading a successful life because they think it’s for other people – worthy people – not for themselves. Because they lack self-worth.

To begin to access your intuition you first must believe you deserve all that it can do for you – all that it can bring you. You have to deal with your own sense of self-worth.

Many of us wrap our misery and failures around us like a security blanket. It actually makes us feel good to feel like crap. Because we see our miserable existence as being not only the natural state of a cruel and unforgiving world, it’s also the natural state of who we are as human beings.

Seeing the world this way allows us to get a certain comfort from sharing in the collective experience of feeling like crap. We find ourselves rejoicing in the notion that life is patently unfair, and every day is a struggle towards mere survival, nothing more. And happiness, true happiness, is a fleeting transitory illusion sent only to throw us into even deeper despair.  

I know people who think like this.
And it’s sad.

What they’re doing is they’re blaming everything else, and everyone else, on the outcomes of the choices that they’ve made. They might say that circumstances forced them to make the choices that they made, but that’s not true.

You are ultimately responsible for the choices that you make. And for what then happens when you make those choices.

Remember, intuition is a messaging service. That’s all it is. It’s DDM – Divine Direct Messaging. And it directs you to make the right choices, the choices that will lead you to true fulfillment, and joy and love. Therein lies contentment. Not necessarily happiness, which is transitory and ultimately illusory, but contentment.

We have this dictum: It’s too good to be true.

What nonsense!

It’s that kind of conditioned thinking that holds us back. It keeps us small, it keeps us contained. At its heart, it’s saying that we don’t deserve whatever it is that’s too good. And that we shouldn’t relish it, we shouldn’t rejoice in it, because very soon it will be snatched away from us because we don’t deserve it. We’re not worthy.

Why shouldn’t the too good be not only true, but a permanent and sustainable part of our lives? We do deserve it. It’s ours. We have a right to the too good. In fact, it’s our birthright.

Here’s another one: Fifteen minutes of fame.

Let’s take this out of the celebrity Kim Kardashian context and look at it terms of fleeting glory. Why does glory have to be short-lived? Why can’t glory be, once again, a permanent and sustainable part of our life?

Fifteen minutes of fame tells us that we don’t deserve anything more. That fifteen minutes is all we get, and then it’s gone, because then it’s someone else’s turn and they deserve it more than us. And we have to step back into the shadows, and put up with obscurity once again because we’re not good enough to have a lifetime of fame.

All these sayings – like fifteen minutes of fame – do is reinforce the notion that we’re not worthy of greatness. And that’s where our guidance seeks to take us – to greatness. To the full expression of who we truly are, which is a state of greatness.

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7 thoughts on “Fear of success

    • Hi Karen – we have a screening scheduled for Feb 8 in LA, but it’s been sold out for a week now. We are trying to get a larger cinema to cater for the demand, but we’ve been bumped up once to a bigger screen and I don’t think there’s another one available in the same complex.

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  2. Fear of loss
    Feat of ridicule or rejection – aka Fear of not being loved
    Fear of failure
    Fear of letting go – aka Fear of losing control
    Fear of success

    Bill, this is one of the most insightful bit or piece that you’ve posted so far in this blog — thank you for it.

    In my experience, it’s the fear of “losing control” that’s the worst of them, including its corollary in the fear of being perceived as being “a loser” and not “a winner”. The fears of failure and success, of rejection (but also of undue adoration) can all be traced back to our desire for control.

    What I’ve found though is that as we are called to a certain life and a particular manner of being, so that is which we should cleave to for the good. Absolutely no surrender whatsoever, but rather the singular determined love for the path that is set before one.

    These fears are what can panick us into leaving that path. They are the very antithesis of both the Spiritual and the Mystic.

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