PC# 34 – A Casualty of Camino

I've just left Facebook.

This is a direct consequence of my walking the Camino.

Before walking the Camino, I was all over Facebook. When I came back, I couldn't bring myself to go on FB. Everything seemed trivial and ego-driven.

I'm keeping my business related Facebook accounts open. But my personal account, the one where I did all my activity and had all my so-called “friends,” as of twenty minutes ago has been de-activated.

And you know what? I feel GREAT about it.

Thank you Camino!

 

14 thoughts on “PC# 34 – A Casualty of Camino

  1. Since I made a decision at the very start of the FB phenomenon to NOT join, I can only applaud your decision to cut your connection on a personal level. I have family in both the US and Europe and am told repeatedly that I should have a FB page so I can be part of their ‘community’, but instead I make sure I stay in touch in other ways. With so many communication modes available to us, I really don’t think something as invasive as FB needs to be part of my world!! Love the photo Bill! When travelling in Laos and Cambodia a couple of years ago, I noticed some seriously scary concoctions of electrical installations, but this takes the cake for ‘plumbing’!!

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    • Hi Britta,

      I think you’re absolutely right. If anyone wants to contact me, they can do so other ways. – and probably in a way that is more personal, and more communicative than Facebook.

      It’s still handy for business, for marketing and promotion etc – but largely, it’s trivial.

      Bill

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  2. Well, I for one miss you in my group. I respect your decision. Not something I would want to do. I found or was found by some amazing people last year, that ultimately had a great impact on my experience on the Camino and continues to attract the kind of friends I cherish and that includes you Bill. I’ve only had 2 minor annoyances over the many years, easily dealt with. The many good things that have happened, tip the scale way high.

    So now I am doubly glad you are keeping up your blog, since I am not much of an e-mail writer – takes too much time to sort through… 😉

    As always, you never stop to surprise me, although you had hinted some time ago.

    Ingrid

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    • Dear Ingrid –

      yes there are some regrets and downsides, your very special group being one.

      But I just got very tired of reading rubbishy things by people I hardly knew, and often didn’t know at all.

      I’ll miss the gems that filter through, and as I say I’ll miss interactions with special people such as yourself and your group – but I couldn’t handle it anymore. In the same way I still can’t handle the sound of a phone ringing!

      Bill

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  3. Like Britta I never got involved at all in Facebook. We have had a business FB page for about 2 years now, and one of my younger staff updates it, I rarely even look at it. I can’t imagine having the actual time and emotional energy to spend time on FB. I have found over the years that the number of people I can interact with has diminished to those relationships that really count. and there are ways to nourish those relationships without the clutter of FB. I have one daughter who lives and works in the Swiss alps, one in Quebec (far away from me in BC), one leaving for university in France in a month, and friends and relatives in Switzerland and England. We use text messaging, gmail chat, and email to communicate and I am very satisfied with that.Then there’s the phone, which nowadays is quite inexpensive. A huge change from my globe-trotting years- lining up at the central T and T in some city to book a call home, waiting sometimes for hours to get it through! Where did the time go??!! What incredible leaps technology has taken!

    Debra..

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  4. I didn’t start FB early as I use Linked In for business as my clients (Yes, I had clients in my last life. 🙂 ) are businesses, not consumers.

    However, if I want to see photos of grandkids and where my children are on vacation or what the baby did that’s cute, etc., I’m told, Well it’s on FB if you want to see it. We still use the telephone for more serious or personal contact and email for private matters that don’t require personal phone call.

    I rarely post, but I keep up with family casual news and sometimes not casual. I just read a post that a niece in law’s father is in the hospital. She’s there and posted from her phone. That let a lot of folks know really fast when her attention needs to be on her dad and mom just now. I just don’t read many posts by non-family. And I don’t open it every day. I get notices in my email inbox and often delete them, depending on who and what. I may spend 20 minutes a week.

    It’s also an easy way to give encouragement or praise for family members (and occasionally others) who need encouragement or posted some accomplishment they are excited about. It’s extended my relationships with outer circle relatives I’d never be in touch with otherwise. Mom’s cousin who has bookoos of old photos and records, even a photo of the boat my grandmother and family came to US from France when she was 7. Little glimmers that can be fun if you like history. We compare notes. No, I’m not on ancestry.com. I don’t have to go there, when I have these others who go.
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    It’s more like family Sunday dinner or picnic, not a long private chat of deeper thoughts like this blog.

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  5. Bravo, Bill! Theres no need for me to repeat my feelings about FB. Think I made it rather clear that I loathe it, so welcome back to uncluttered sanity. I’m sure the people you miss will still find a way to talk to you!

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    • Dear Sister –

      that’s what i figure too. And thank you! I don’t miss it. It was wasting too much of my time.

      FB can be used for wonderful things – connecting old friends from school, or from work, keeping in touch with distant family or relatives, and it can be used very powerfully too in political rallying, and the bringing together of people for social reform. Those are some of the wonderful things FB can do.

      But for me right now, I want to be out of it.

      Bill

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  6. FB and the rest of them can certainly be time wasters. Good for you, Bill, for staying out while you can. You got me thinking, though, about just what FB and other social media are good for.
    Afterall, they are simply tools to be used or abused.

    Here’s a couple of good uses. I have a friend who lives alone here well away from her family. She works at one of the universities. She developed a serious, prolonged illness where she was off work and not allowed to drive. Using FB, her friends and she set up a schedule and each volunteered as their time fit her schedule of Dr. appointments and other necessary trips she had to take over a period of several months.

    Number 2 is actually a pre FB story of using my space. My college roommate’s son developed MRSA in his spine for some unknown reason. He was 41 at the time, with a wife and twin babies, a year old. He was hospitalized in San Diego where they lived, but he didn’t respond well and doctors transferred him to Denver, Colo. for special treatment. His wife stayed close to his bedside through this prolonged period, His parents lived across state in Durango, Colo, her in San Diego. Others were scatted all over. His wife would post updats of his condition on My Space where family and friends could check, offer encouragement etc. This was a situation that lasted almost a year. He did not survive and the whole episode was heartrending. My Space offered a highly functional method of communicating thoughout this whole tragic ordeal. The worth of a tool depends on how we use it, and having the good sense to know when to put it down.

    I guess I’m belaboring a point. Once more, you got me thinking. Good for you for backing off FB, Bill. I know you also still use it where it’s useful. In your case, your business.

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    • Hi Barbara,

      Yes, social media can be used in the most powerfully beneficial ways, such as the two instances you’ve outlined.

      Also politically, in upturning undemocratic regimes, etc. Facebook has been, and continues to be, a way to bring people together that was not possible before, to turn Jung’s Collective Unconscious into something very real!

      Bill

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